The pain of losing a husband is beyond description. As Saint Peter says,”You husbands in the same way, live with your wives in an understanding way, as with someone weaker, since she is a woman; and show her honor as a fellow heir of the grace of life, so that your prayers will not be hindered” (1 Peter 3:7). When one has a husband who takes up his role diligently and is a huge support, one tends to recognize such a husband as a backbone and what happens when the “backbone” is lost? The feeling is indescribable. That feeling of huge loss, abandonment, desolation; That feeling of emptiness. But you must be assured that he has not abandoned you “Brothers and sisters, we do not want you to be uninformed about those who sleep in death, so that you do not grieve like the rest of mankind, who have no hope. For we believe that Jesus died and rose again, and so we believe that God will bring with Jesus those who have fallen asleep in him” (1 Thessalonians 4:13-14). You should know that if our God is alive, then all who die with him are alive.
So times when thoughts of him cross your mind, reach out to him through the this prayer:
“O heavenly Father, I am now in the shadow of great loneliness. My helpmate has been taken from me. Yet I submit in holy faith to Your divine will. I know that You love my spouse who, I pray, is now in heaven rejoicing with You.
Grant me the strength I need to bear my present burdens, and help me to look for opportunities to seek out those less fortunate than myself. Keep me from feeling sorry for myself in my present condition, and keep my heart inflamed with love for You and for my neighbor, so that I can help to carry on Your work of love in this world.
May I one day be reunited with my beloved spouse in heaven, where we both can worship You for all eternity. Amen”.