How To Pray And Get Exactly What You Ask For: A Catholic Perspective


Prayer is a central part of the Catholic faith, a way to communicate with God and grow in a relationship with Him. Many of us ask, “How should I pray to get exactly what I ask for?” The simple answer may surprise you: you can’t. Well, not in the way you might think. But you can get something far greater—a deeper relationship with God, guidance, and spiritual growth. Let’s explore the Church’s teachings to get a better understanding of prayer.

The Nature of Prayer

The Catechism of the Catholic Church tells us that “Prayer is the raising of one’s mind and heart to God or the requesting of good things from God” (CCC 2559). It is important to note that prayer is not just about asking for stuff; it’s primarily about relationship. Jesus Himself gave us the perfect template for prayer through the Lord’s Prayer, also known as the Our Father (Matthew 6:9-13).

“Your Will Be Done”

In the Lord’s Prayer, Jesus tells us to ask for God’s will to be done (Matthew 6:10). This is crucial. St. James warns that we don’t receive what we ask for because we ask with wrong motives (James 4:3). So, when we pray, aligning our will with God’s will is essential.

Does God Always Answer?

Certainly, God hears every prayer. However, the answers might come in ways we don’t expect. The Catechism says, “God grants prayer that is made according to his will” (CCC 2736). Remember, God knows better than we do what’s truly good for us. Sometimes, the answer could be a “no” or “not yet.”

The Conditions for Answered Prayer


Jesus frequently says, “Your faith has made you well” (e.g., Matthew 9:22). Faith is a crucial component in receiving what we ask for. Without faith, we’re basically telling God we don’t trust Him to do what we’re asking. This isn’t a bargaining chip to get what we want, but a necessary condition for an authentic relationship with God.


Jesus tells the parable of the persistent widow to show that we should “always pray and not lose heart” (Luke 18:1). We’re encouraged to persist in prayer, not because God needs convincing, but because we need to deepen our relationship with Him.


James 5:16 says, “The prayer of a righteous person has great power as it is working.” Sin hampers our prayer life. Living in a way that’s in harmony with God’s law makes our prayers more effective.


The Church believes that communal prayers are powerful. Jesus says, “For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them” (Matthew 18:20).

The Importance of the Sacraments

Sacraments like the Eucharist and Reconciliation are means by which we can grow closer to God and improve our prayer life. The Catechism notes, “The Holy Spirit who teaches the Church and recalls for her everything that Jesus said also instructs her in the life of prayer” (CCC 2625). By participating in the Sacraments, we allow the Holy Spirit to guide us in prayer.

Contemplative Prayer

The Church also encourages contemplative prayer, which the Catechism defines as “a gaze of faith, fixed on Jesus” (CCC 2715). This is less about asking for stuff and more about sitting with God, soaking in His presence.

Conclusion: The True Reward of Prayer

So, how do you pray and get exactly what you ask for? By aligning your desires with God’s desires and seeking first His kingdom (Matthew 6:33). It may not be the answer you were expecting, but it will lead you to the greatest treasure: a deep, abiding relationship with God. Through this relationship, you’ll receive gifts far greater than any material possession: peace, joy, love, and eternal life with Him.

In prayer, the focus shouldn’t necessarily be on receiving what we ask for, but on receiving God Himself. When we align our will with His, we open ourselves to receive the good things He has in store for us—good things beyond our imagination. As St. Paul writes, “What no eye has seen, nor ear heard, nor the heart of man imagined, what God has prepared for those who love him” (1 Corinthians 2:9).

Remember, the primary purpose of prayer is not to get things from God, but to get to know God. In doing so, we might just find that we get exactly what we truly need.

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Note: While content aims to align with Catholic teachings, any inconsistencies or errors are unintended. For precise understanding, always refer to authoritative sources like the Catechism of the Catholic Church. Always double-check any quotes for word-for-word accuracy with the Bible or the Catechism of the Catholic Church.

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